Recently I have been thinking a lot about community. How community can build strength or indulge in collective weakness. It takes work to be a strong authentic individual within a collective, but it also brings great joy. As this round of Fellowship is nearing its end, and we are preparing for our celebration and sharing with a greater community I wanted to share a bit about how this healing work is influenced and aided by the collective work that we are doing.
It isn’t easy to change deep rooted perspectives, a lot comes up that you can’t prepare for, and it is really nice to have a community of people who are doing this work with you. A community that can support you when you are struggling and can celebrate your strength when you need to be reminded of its presence.
In any community, or individual relationship, there are times when you are a teacher and times when you are a learner. These roles hold a lot of weight for many of us. Positive energy surrounding these practices needs to be restored; as well as the understanding that both of these are necessary lifelong roles for all humans.
Part of my healing during this time is to practice both of these roles in a safe environment where I am not existing in fight or flight mode. What I’ve come to understand is how alike these two positions truly are. They can’t exist without one another and for deep learning to occur they must work together – both parties teaching and learning in tandem.
Since September I have been lucky to receive a few Sourcepoint sessions at Succurro. I have also become a student of this modality. I’ve read Donna and Bob’s book and participated in Module 1 of the Sourcepoint training. The funny thing about choosing to learn a new trade or process is that if you are open to it you will learn so much more that can be applied to your life and practice than you might have thought. While the Sourcepoint training is teaching me to practice this healing modality on others, it is also teaching me skills and practices that I can apply to all aspects of my life and be healthier in doing so. The most impactful ideology is to “get out of the way.” In Sourcepoint this means to get my story and belief systems out of the way of the triangular connection between the blueprint, client, and practitioner. I’ve also started finding these triangular relationships in other relationships in my life and have been working to get out of the way. At work the triangle is between teacher, student, and learning. At home, with my partner, it can be a million things, but one example is human, human, cooking. In simple terms, I think of getting out of the way, as working to not let the identity of my story take me out of the present, or let my ego bring me into fight or flight mode. This is obviously a process, and some days are better than others, but even understanding the triangular relationship has opened my eyes to new possibilities.
Last weekend while I was up at Succurro with the fellows, I had the opportunity to lead a geometry drawing exercise where I was able to practice existing within the triangular relationship. It definitely takes practice to learn how to hold space for all different types of learners and thinkers, but it is important to me to work on this because I believe that individuals should all learn in the way that is best for them. I’m not sure if I knew it before, but the exercise was all about responding – responding to nature, to material, to the immaterial, to ourselves, and to one another. In this safe space it was easy to allow myself and the exercise to evolve with the group. I’m looking forward to continuing to practice this in other environments as well.
I don’t know when it was decided that we are supposed to know all the answers. As things change, our needs change, just like how the location of our points and blockages are always changing. I’m practicing acknowledging that I don’t know what’s going to change, and working to have the ability to respond to what does change.